Wednesday, April 15, 2009

all about " ten years ago"


"Each friend represents a world in us,
a world possibly not born until they arrive,
and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born."
by Anais Nin


Yesterday, I felt extremely happy and sentimental because I spent hours of precious moments with three of my most cherished friends in the whole world. At last, we were gathered.

Ten years ago, we were always together everyday in the office. And for more than two years of both working on a project and the "bonding", we all have developed a deep down-to-earth friendship. I remembered not exactly "adoring" each other at work, but those "roaring" moments were instrumental to each one's character. Yes, there are people who are constantly in our thoughts because of fond and not so fond memories. Sometimes it does not matter anymore because they are the people who greatly influenced most of our decisions in life.

We all separated after the project. Our communication dwindled too. Except for Joel (who is managing a Beijing -based project) whom I constantly chat with. Cynthia and Joy who works here in Davao are the ones I do not see and talk often (the irony!).

I do not know, if this meeting was planned because whenever we plan to meet, schedules seems not to fit at all. This is heaven sent. The day we met!

We always laugh out loud. All of us. We have our standard "LOL" cue when discussing threatening or even life-threatening issues. In fact, we could talk of death, abortion or sex as if we were talking about chocolates, coffee or food.

We all have learned to laugh and accept each others throwing of ridicules, insults and those insensitive innuendos. I do not know how we blend all of that with deep concern and tenderness, but each one of us have directness that only us can throw to each other. Or else, we could kill or shock someone who does not know our way of "care and support".

Culling happiness from oneself and not from other people was a topic that constantly surfaced that night. I have been cuing this lesson from time to time, not only for myself but for everyone. It is not selfishness. If one's foothold of happiness is your husband, wife, children, lover, friends or career, then we could forever be miserable with our lives especially because expectations are often unmet by them.

Triumphs and obstacles were pleasant neutralizers to the food we ate. Hmmmm Chinese and Filipino food, together. At the bar earlier, we had frozen San Mig lights that gave us some release of our stress. Late coffee and tea at Bigby's was the culmination. We did not stop with our never-ending issue-laden lives har har har. I guess, we have gone through a lot. This time around though, our conversations were not just issue-laden but surprisingly with marked sophistication and culture. Not bad!

But nothing beats the hugs and kisses when it was time to say good-bye. Only for that occasion though! I guess, we all saved each other's souls again!

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